by Margaret Sousoulas
People
diagnosed with cancer and their loved ones are faced with many
challenges that leave them feeling overwhelmed, afraid, and alone. They
may find it difficult to talk about their feelings, even to family and
friends. Where can they turn? Perhaps a cancer support group is the
answer. A support group can provide a safe place to express thoughts,
feelings, and fears with others also coping with cancer.
If
you have considered attending a support group but are uncertain about
how this could help you, perhaps reviewing these questions and answers
will encourage you to attend a meeting:
1. What is the purpose of a cancer support group?
The
main purpose of a cancer support group is to provide mutual emotional
support for people who have cancer and their families. The group is
designed to provide a confidential atmosphere where cancer patients,
cancer survivors, and family members can discuss the challenges that
cancer brings. Some of these are related to treatment, loss of work, and
financial concerns as well as the many emotions that seem like a
roller-coaster at times. During these difficult times, access to people
who understand, listen, and care is an important part of healing.
2. Do I have to talk if I attend the group?
No
one has to speak unless they wish to do so. The group understands that
in the beginning it may be too painful to even get in touch with
thoughts and feelings. You can say what you like or just listen.
3. May I bring my family or a good friend?
Yes.
Family and friends are affected when cancer touches someone they love.
They may need help to cope with their own feelings and fears. Often,
illness brings about role changes in the family. Family members may need
to assume new responsibilities to maintain the home and to care for
their loved one. Change is stressful for everyone involved.
4. How can a support group help me cope with cancer?
By
being with fellow cancer patients and hearing their feelings and
thoughts, one feels less alone and less isolated. Family members also
gain a better understanding of the patient's emotions and their own. By
sharing tips on "what has helped me cope" members are encouraged and
strengthened. Anxiety and depression are lessened. Coping with cancer is
a grief experience for both the patient and the family. It takes time
to grieve and having caring, supportive individuals in a group can be
healing. Often, group members begin to feel more in control of their
lives.